How do people come ungrounded?

We've been talking about grounding all week, and today we're going to talk about the grounding tube. How do people come ungrounded, anyway?  Coming Ungrounded We can come ungrounded in times of trauma--both physical trauma, like being in a car accident, or being born, and emotional trauma, like discovering your spouse has a pornography addiction or seeing a big fat F on the top of a school assignment you desperately needed to pass. When we experience trauma of any kind, we have the potential to become ungrounded. But how? This is the question that I've been stunned more people don't ask. HOW does it happen?? HOW does grounding and ungrounding work? ​​​​​​​The answer is the grounding tube.

The Grounding Tube The grounding tube is more or less what it sounds like, which is why I named it that. It's a tube--the connector tube between body and spirit. When a person is grounded, the tube is extremely contracted, and resides at the crown of the skull, where it is protected by the bones of the skull and hopefully an intact arcline, which you may have seen depicted in Christian art as the halo.  When a person comes ungrounded, the grounding tube sort of unfolds like a Slinky, stretching out as the spirit actually seems to escape from the body. When we are partially grounded, it's because part of us is in the grounding tube and part of us is still in our body.  When we are not grounded, the spirit is basically floating above the body, hopefully connected by the grounding tube.  When the trauma is severe enough, the grounding tube can actually explode, fragment, flee entirely, or all of the above. This creates a severe separation between the body and the spirit that prevents grounding basically forever, until the tube is properly healed and reinstalled, and the spirit wants to come back, and the body wants it back.  The grounding tube can flee for many reasons, including birth, abuse, sudden physical impact (like in a car accident), or even emotional trauma--and the grounding tube can even have fled prior to mortal birth. When a person has had trouble grounding since "forever," a good place to start looking is trauma to the grounding tube dating to birth or pre-earth life.  Healing the Grounding Tube Healing the grounding tube is not much different from healing anything else. You need to clear the trauma that caused it to leave in the first place, restore the integrity to the system, and make sure all the other pieces associated with it want it back. Then you need to make sure it knows how to function and wants to function.

Where grounding begins... in the skull?

So far this week we've been talking a lot about grounding and how it is way more complex than most people understand. Today I wanted to talk about one of the most important pieces to grounding... the skull.  Skull utilization in the grounding process When you really think about it, though, it makes some amount of sense. If the body and spirit are not fully connected, and if the spirit feels "outside" of the body... how did it get outside? Well, probably through the head! Up and out! There are several modulating pieces of energetic anatomy associated with the skull, in different areas. One to connect the right and left brains; one to connect the body and the spirit; and one to connect the brain to the spine (and then from there to the root and then to the feet and then to the earth--those are all different pieces of this complex system). Obviously the skull and brain contain many, many different pieces of energetic anatomy, just as they contain many different bones and lobes and systems in real life. In case you thought energy work was simple--well, it can be simple, but also, it is very much not simple. However complex the human physical body is, the energetic body is many, many times more complex. The skull has many connections to the grounding process. If the various aspects of the skull are not in perfect energetic alignment, and if they are not intact, and if they are not "on," and if they don't know what they're doing, you're going to have a hard time grounding.

A Simple Exercise Obviously, taking care of this system is... complex! The word of the day when it comes to grounding. But there are things you can do at home to start realigning your systems.  One simple exercise I recommend doing today is to set a timer for five minutes. You're going to sit in a chair with your feet flat on the ground and your spine perfectly straight, or as straight as you can get it. You're going to place your own hands right on top of your head, right on your crown, and you're going to breathe deeply and slowly for those five minutes, and you're going to imagine or think about what it would be like for a circle there to heal. This circle connects to the "grounding tube," and it needs to be functional in order for the body and spirit to be fully connected. So just breathe for those five minutes and imagine that circle being filled with light and healing up and cracks that might be in it. If you can't imagine the circle there, just imagine filling the space where it should be with light. You can send out a mental call to that circle: "Grounding tube connector piece! I want you back! Help me help you come back!" and see what happens!  I am so interested to hear your experience!

Grounding Mechanism Basics

Yesterday we talked about the basics of grounding: what it is, why it's important, and the basics of how it works.  Today I want to talk about a thing I call the grounding mat.  Some people buy grounding mats... including me. I really enjoy these grounding mats from VibesUp, and in addition to several mats, I have body wraps, coasters, and a pyramid... and bracelets, and a water bottle, and a sleeping mask, and all sorts of stuff from that same company made of the same stuff. I love how it makes me feel, and how the coasters and water bottle actually make my water taste different! These are not affiliate links, by the way--I get a total of zero anything from you ordering any of that, except for the joy of altruism from sharing something I super love. ... I love it!! But the grounding mat I'm talking about today is TOTALLY DIFFERENT!!!!!

The Grounding Mat

Yesterday I mentioned the energetic grounding system, and how it is a complex system comprised of many pieces. The grounding mat is one of those pieces. If it is not in place and functional, the person cannot be fully and sustainably grounded.  You can muscle test right now or ask your intuition if your grounding mat is currently properly installed beneath your feet. If you look with your spiritual eyes, it will look like a circle maybe 2-3 feet in diameter right under your feet, connecting your feet to the earth. If you can't even imagine that there under your feet, then yours is probably missing! To call back a grounding mat, several things need to happen. First, we need to identify why the mat fled in the first place, if it is gone. From there, we need to fully resolve the trauma and teach the mat, the body, and the spirit why that event was important. We need to help each of those three components feel comfortable having the mat reinstalled, before we can reinstall it. When the mat is there, we need to make sure it is intact and the proper size. We need to be sure it wants to be there and knows how to function. We need to help the body understand how the system functions as well. All the different components of the body's system need to be on board for the mat to be willing to turn back "on" if it has been off. These are things you can start muscle testing on or using your intuition about. One thing you can do is write a letter to your body about it: "Body, is my grounding mat there? Why did it flee? If it doesn't work right now, why not? What are things I need to start addressing in order to make my grounding mechanism start functioning again?"  Etc. Then skip a line and write a letter back to yourself from your own body. See what it says! I would be so interested to hear what your body says about this.  I'll be talking more about grounding mechanisms tomorrow... be on the lookout! Sending you all the good vibes!!

getting grounded

Happy Monday!! Ever heard of grounding? When we are "grounded," it means our left brains are connected to our right brains; our bodies are connected to our spirits; and our body-spirit is connected to the earth's energy, too.  When we are grounded, we have a sense of peace and calm that is very different from how we feel when we are ungrounded. Being grounded brings a sense of self-connection, a sense of stability.  Contrast this to ungroundedness: my classic example of being ungrounded is when you're sitting there at night, completely unable to sleep, because your brain just won't turn off. When it feels like your brain is going a million miles a minute, somewhere above your body, you are ungrounded. When you feel calm, peaceful, internally connected to your own spirit, and very stable, you are most likely grounded.  How do we ground? This is an article with 5 ways to get grounded, and I do recommend it.  But some people have a difficult time grounding, even if they do all the exercises and take the appropriate steps to ground. Why is that? It turns out that the process of grounding is much more complex than just touching the earth with your bare feet or concentrating on the here and now. Kind of like how the process of digesting food is more complex than just eating and drinking. In the case of digestion, there's an entire bodily system in place that handles a plethora of different digestion-associated functions. Your brain helps you choose what to eat; your hands bring it to your mouth; your teeth chew and your saliva breaks down the food; your esophagus helps the food travel to your stomach... then we have stomach acid breaking down food, and a whole continuing chain of hundreds of actions and reactions through numerous organs that work together to make it so we can eat food and derive nutrition from it.  It turns out--while grounding is not quite as complex as digestion, it is much, much more comparable to digestion than most people understand.

Grounding Mechanisms

This is why some people are easily grounded and some people just. cannot. stay. in. their. bodies. It all comes down to the grounding mechanism. The system that actually governs grounding. It turns out to have many pieces. When I do a grounding session now, there are a minimum of 11 different energetic "organs" that I work with--things you can't read about in a book. I discovered them while asking the tough questions: why do some people ground easily, and others don't? When our grounding systems are functional, even if we come ungrounded, we easily re-ground.  Grounding is necessary for accurate muscle testing, quality sleep, and freedom from anxiety and depression.  This is a quotation from a woman who recently had a session on her grounding mechanism: I feel really good. Almost like I’m whole again! It’s amazing to feel and stay grounded like this. I actually feel like I’m on the earth now and gravity is working. I’ve usually felt light and like I barely put weight or pressure on it. I’ve had to concentrate and be aware of grounding and now it feels like it’s more of a natural thing.  I actually feel connected now!  Healing the grounding mechanism is like healing the digestive system. There are many moving parts that all need to work in concert for proper, sustainable grounding. But when the pieces are functional... it changes everything! How do YOU ground? How does grounding present in your life? What do you do to ground? How can you tell when you're grounded or not?

Overweight and the Subconscious Mind

One of the things that really bugged me when I was overweight was the assumption that I was lazy. I wasn't lazy, I was OVERWHELMED. You look at that number on the scale, and it's like: now what??? Then you spend 10 hours looking up diet plans and exercise routines and thinking about grocery lists and recipes and restrictions and then you start getting panicky and then that OVERWHELM sets in and you reach for the chocolate chips because well, you did all this hard work today and I guess you can start tomorrow... and then tomorrow comes and it's so overwhelming the cycle starts all over again.

Orrrrr maybe that's just me?

Overweight is NOT a symptom of laziness. Yeah right. In my experience, overweight people tend to be WAY more proactive about their health than "naturally thin" people. They think about it more, stress about it more, worry about it more... that is not laziness. Not even close. They try more solutions for their problem than "natural skinnies" do. They work SO HARD for answers but when the answers don't come it is so easy to be overcome with despair.

The problem with assuming that overweight people are lazy is that this assumption overlooks a major aspect of biological reality: WE DO NOT CONSCIOUSLY CONTROL OUR APPETITES. Consciously, we just do not. It is as simple as that.

Do we consciously control how hungry we get? No. Do we consciously control what foods we crave? No. Just like we do not consciously control how much stomach acid is being used to digest our food and just like we do not consciously control what percentage of our caloric intake is converted into fat.

This is obvious because if we all could control those things with our conscious minds, we would choose not to get hungry very often, and when we were hungry we'd all crave kale or whatever health food of the day that would help us lose weight.

No one WANTS to crave crappy food. It's not like we all just wake up in the morning and think: "how can I fill up today on empty calories that will make me look and feel terrible?" Yeah right.

Our appetites and cravings are governed by the unconscious mind, the part of our brain that is in charge of the really difficult job of keeping our body functioning and SAFE. Safety is a huge, huge goal of the unconscious mind... really THE most important goal.

So one real question we need to be asking is:

- Why does my unconscious mind feel like I will be safer if I eat high quantities of low-quality food? Why does my unconscious mind feel I am safer if I am fat?

The biological answer is that on a cellular level, stress is stress. In the olden days, the primary stressors were things like predators and famine--things that required fat stores to get you through. In the modern day, our primary stressors are things like feeling judged; unresolved abuse from childhood or general life; money stress; toxic relationships; etc. But our body doesn't have a thing in there for you to explain--

"Hey body, I'm not stressed from an impending Ice Age, I'm stressed from my toxic relationship with my father/my job that I hate/feeling like a failure every day."

There's just not a checkbox for that. Instead, the body just realizes: hey, Sally's in a state of stress--guess that means she needs more fat to keep her safe! Stress is stress, right?

Fat keeps us safe in lots of ways. It is a storage we can use to nourish ourselves in times of famine (are you going through famine--perhaps an emotional famine? An emotional famine of happiness and feelings of purpose and accomplishment?).

It provides a physical barrier against external threats: it can be easy for someone to attack a 110-lb adult, but make that same woman 300 lbs and the chances of an assault are probably less likely. Are there toxic people or unresolved traumatic situations that might lead your body to believe that bigger is better or safer when it comes to weight?

It provides insulation to the internal organs in the case of cold--are there major sources of physical or emotional cold in your life? Do you feel unloved? Might your body interpret that stress as a need to insulate your physical heart and other organs? Do you need to insulate yourself from others around you?

On top of it all, fat is a toxic sinkhole: when we inject ourselves with heavy metals and obesigenic chemicals like MSG, an ingredient in many commercial injections, often these things get stored in our fat in order to protect our internal organs. But many people agree to commercial injections with ingredients they don't even realize trigger obesity, out of fear. What are you afraid of? Are you living your life from a place of fear and an unconscious craving to be protected from everything?

Fat is a PROTECTOR. So why does your subconscious mind feel like you need to be protected? What are your unresolved traumas and fears?

Addressing THESE issues at the unconscious root is what allows for easy, effortless, sustainable weight release. Why? Because this approach goes straight to the SOURCE of our cravings and appetites: the unconscious mind.

As soon as the unconscious mind feels it is safer to be thin than it is to be fat, weight drops off. It does not require fighting your body on what to eat or when to exercise. Your body naturally shifts cravings and hunger cycles. Some people find themselves naturally wanting to move more. Once I figured this all out, and resolved my own unconscious reasons for holding onto excess fat, I dropped 50+ pounds with no diet and no exercise.

Pregnancy is obviously a potent trigger for accumulation of fat--but these days I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my fourth baby and currently weighing 134 lbs (at 5'4). I've gained about 9 lbs so far--on the low end of currently recommended weight gain for this stage of pregnancy, but absolutely within the safe range. And it feels AWESOME to be almost halfway through and not feel like I will need to worry about "getting my body back" after having my baby. It's not from morning sickness or avoiding delicious foods--I had bacon pasta for dinner two nights ago, garlic bread last night, and this morning I'll admit I just had a bunch of chocolate mint M&Ms left over from Christmas. Yum. But when your body feels it is safest to be thin, when you eat foods that otherwise might trigger obesity, your body is just not motivated to turn those calories into fat.

In other words: It is all about getting your UNCONSCIOUS mind on board with your conscious mind when it comes to weight loss.

As soon as you do that, everything changes.

Being overweight is NOT about laziness. No, no, no way. And if you've ever felt like people have judged you that way--I so seriously understand. There is totally a way out of the cycle. 

When scarcity becomes abundance

It is magical when scarcity becomes abundance. I grew up in a scarcity mindset. I felt guilty if anyone spent money on me. Even for necessities. As I grew older, I would feel guilty if people asked me too many questions or took an interest in my life. It was a strange sort of marriage of scarcity and unworthiness--in my mind, it was like there was only so much love and care to go around, and if people cared about me, that meant that someone else was being uncared for. Someone like my disabled brother, maybe. I would deflect attention and focus on serving others to almost an extreme degree at times. It took years to heal from all of that scarcity, all those feelings of worthlessness and unworthiness. And it’s still a process. Like everyone, I go through cycles. Sometimes I do great and attract tons of abundance. And sometimes, I find myself thinking old thoughts of not-enough. I fell into the trap of scarcity and not-enough because of my perceptions of my life. Growing up, even though my family always did have enough, I always felt like I personally did not have enough. I always felt like there was not enough love for me, not enough time for me, not enough money or attention for me. The objective reality of the situation didn’t matter; my perception and beliefs were what mattered. And isn’t that how it goes? The objective reality of a situation is one thing, but our perceptions and beliefs about those situations are really what make or break us. Our perceptions and beliefs are things we can change. I started changing mine when I first got introduced to emotional healing. I moved in with my aunt who works with emotions, and I got to be her guinea pig. And what we worked on was healing childhood bitterness and resentment and scarcity. I will never forget how the layers of those emotions just fell right off me. I felt them leave. It felt magical. I felt 10 pounds lighter after every session. I became happier. I started feeling more secure. I felt trust in my life. I started dating and making close friends. It was the beginning of a major shift. And that is my goal for this challenge. To use the next four weeks to really dig in to our scarcity mindsets and the things holding us back from being joyful and having “enough” in every way. There is enough for you! I know it. And you can know it too. So take your deep breaths and get excited--on Monday we start the fun. Invite a friend to join you in Conquering Scarcity, here: https://forms.aweber.com/form/75/1226416575.htm See you on Monday! Sending ALL THE GOOD VIBES! allie PS. Here are some links to some sessions that would start your Conquering Scarcity journey off to a good start. If you haven't taken these sessions yet, I recommend them. If you have--you might consider watching them again! If you've already ordered them you have lifetime access to them, so you might as well give them another watch and get yourself prepared for this exciting upcoming free series!  Heal Your Self Sabotage

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When is enough scarcity enough?

“ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!”

I don’t even know where this phrase comes from, but I do know that even I find myself yelling it at my children from time to time (nobody’s perfect!). Enough is enough! Enough is enough!

I find myself calling it to them when they have ignored me over and over again, when they have persisted in doing things they knew they should not be doing. FYI, my oldest is six. So I have lots of teeny wackos doing lots of “enough.” ;)

Yesterday we talked about the emotional investments we make into the scarcity mindset, and about the need to “ignore sunk costs.”

Here are my questions for today:

When is enough scarcity enough?

When do we put our foot down?

When do we look at our lives and say: “this is enough!! I’m done with this scarcity! I’m ready to be open for more!”?

When I was talking to my husband about ignoring sunk costs, he brought up a really interesting point.

He said, “We care about sunk costs because we’re afraid of making decisions and we like to revert back to decisions that have already been made, instead of making new decisions.”

How is this true in your life?

How is this true when it comes to the scarcity mindset?

Are there situations when it feels easier to continue living in a mindset of “there’s not enough for me,” just because that’s how you’ve always thought?

To what extent do we continue in old ways of thinking, just because we already decided to think that way, and continuing in an old decision is easier than making a new decision?

I would love to hear your thoughts on these questions. They are serious questions. Not just about scarcity, but about everything. What in our lives persists just because we don’t want to make a new decision? What in your life persists because you don’t want to make a new decision?

One of God’s greatest gifts to us is agency… the power to make decisions. How are we using that incredible power to choose prosperity?

When is that scarcity mindset enough? When does it become time to choose a new way of thinking?